It's really different between us Chinese and Americans. Such as Monica and Chandler, they used to be good friends. However, after both of them went to London to join their friend Ross's wedding, everything changed. They made love, they had sex relationship! They thought maybe they drunk a lot and did the bad thing at first, a few seconds later, they both considered they did a romantic thing out of their country. As our Chinese's thinking habit, there should be only two things happen, one, Chandler and Monica fecome lassie to each other right now; two, their friendship would be totally broken up cause they did the wrong thing which should never happen between two friends. However, they just made the third instance, they set up another relationship between friendship and love for them. To Ross, Rachel, Phoebe and Joey, they pretended to be the best friends as before. Furthermore, when no one else left in the room, they just wanted to make love one more time. They only cared about whether they could get the climax from the other one when they made love.
That seemed to be unbelievable to me as a Chinese. In our's minds, one could never cross over the base line from friendship to love. If such thing happens, that would be thought to be demoralization. We ususally see similar scenarios from movies or sitcoms which designed by our Chinese directors, A and B are two good friends, one day, A found that she loved B deeply, she felt so foolish and villainly but she could not oppress the good willing of love. At last, she told her thought to A. As we could find the answer without watching ahead, their friendship break down and they become strangers to each other. What a pity! But things always go like that.
I have to admit the different cultures between China and some other European countries do exist. To my opinion, I really agree that good friends should never be lover one day, that would make so many things change. For example, as friends, they could talk everything optionally, they could joke or even laugh at each other, that's all ok. However when they become lovers, they could never be as optional as before, anything one will do, should concern about more such as "Would I hurt her if I do like this?" "How dare I talk these things to her, that should only be shared with my friends." On such conditions, a lot of problems come out. Maybe some of them would break down the love, that's the truth.
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