Been Done Wrong? 有人伤害过你吗？

Been Done Wrong? 有人伤害过你吗？

[疯狂短评]
    可能我们每个人都被别人伤害过。如果有人伤害你，你会怎么办？是以眼还眼、以牙还牙地疯狂报复，还是一而再、再而三地宽恕别人？如果你不知道该怎么做，读一读下面的文章吧，它会给你提供一些有用的建议。

[1]Has someone done you wrong? It happens to all of us. The thing is some let go and prosper while others hang on to it indefinitely and suffer all the more. When we hold a grudge against someone, we don’t hurt them we allow them to keep hurting us.
[2]To move on we need to forgive, but not forget! A favorite saying of mine comes from that venerablefount of wisdom, Gomer Pyle. “ Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” That’s extremely wise.
[3]Forgiving is necessary for us to move on in a healthy and prosperous way, but that doesn’t mean we have to make the same mistake with the same person. It doesn’t mean giving the house keys to the burglarwho got caught robbing you.
[4]Forgive others for your sake, and remember the lessons learned for theirs. Why for theirs. Why for their sake? You don’t help them by letting them repeat their offenses against you. You help them by forgiving them, but holding then accountable for their past actions.
                              
   有人曾伤害过你吗？相信我们都有过被人伤害的经历。对于那些不愉快的经历，有人一笑置之，过得更好，有人却耿耿与怀，因而感到更加痛苦。当我们对某人仇恨在心的时候，他并不会因此感到受到伤害，但我们自己却因放不下仇恨而伤害自己。
    要生活下去，就得学会宽容，但决不是遗忘！我最喜欢的至理名言之一是高曼.派尔所说：“你愚弄了我一次，可耻的是你；但你愚弄了我两次，可耻的是我。”此言可谓寓意深远。
    只有懂得宽容的人才会过上幸福健康的生活。但宽容并不等于要一错再错或是干些引狼入室的蠢事。
    为了自己而原谅他人，为了他人而吸取教训。为什么是为了他们？因为你不是通过让他们一而再、再而三地冒犯你来帮助他们，而是通过原谅他们，让他们对自己过去的事情负责而帮助他们。