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2013-10-26 14:54:40
When your child does conquer a new task, mark it with gratitude. Look for those small triumphs and rejoice in them. Make sure your child knows that for them, they have overcome something very big.
A few years ago, I went on a walk with my children, who were trying out their new scooters. My son, who struggles with coordination, was fumbling to figure it out, and then suddenly, it just clicked. It was a small thing, but for him it was huge. I walked behind him with tears in my eyes and said a prayer of gratitude for that moment, which gave me such hope for the future. If he could ride a scooter, then he could be taught social cues. He could learn to control his tantrums and his unwieldy body. And he has. We have a ways to go, but each milestone has brought me encouragement.
7. Listen to the Spirit.
Read and study and get advice, but in the end, follow the promptings of the Spirit to know what is best for your child and your family. It may not be what the world says is best, or what the experts say is best, but you will be guided. I have felt that guiding voice over and over again with my son. At the end of a frustrating day, I am knocked to my knees in prayer, asking "What more can I do?" The Spirit has always given me clear, comforting direction.
8. Find time to nurture your marriage.
Having a child who is difficult can be tough on a marriage. You may feel blame for how you've parented (or from the genes your child has inherited). You may have different tactics for how to deal with tantrums, stubbornness, or other trying situations. Tensions can run high. And those difficult children sometimes take so much focus during the waking hours that you are not able to focus on your spouse. If this is the case, make sure you find time to strengthen your marriage. Go on dates. Plan trips together. Take time each night to talk and regroup. If your marriage is strong, you will have the strength to endure to daily challenges that come from raising a challenging child.
This is what I know, after seven years of wondering if I was up to the task of raising this son of mine: The Lord is aware of all things. He does not plunk these children into families in a random fashion. There is something for all of us to learn. He knows we are up to the task. He knows we can love and nurture and raise these unique individuals better than anyone else. That's why they were sent to us. And that's why he promises to always be with us. We can do it. With him, all things are possible
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