Mature seems to be a very cruel things, it represents the loss of youth and dream fades. But, the life to mature is life's direction, moreover, a peaceful and happy life belongs to mature life.
What is a mature
Not mature comment.maybe vulgar, this kind of mature core spirit but is compromise and obedient, and ignoble peace, only from the. This is the wisdom of the SIMS. But it is the mainstream of society. This kind of mature is not worth of envy. Of course, mature also is not paranoid.
A person to mature is difficult. If the said, except through the path of the night without to the bright. Very helpless is the fact that the mature always and frustration of life relates in together, "pass the impart knowledge to reassure also" and can't let you mature, and need time and price to pay. The road to mature, not the end, only travel. Mature is relative, and childish is an absolute, mature not make mistakes, but can you really from his mistakes to them.
The hands of the glass is not mature and that cigarettes, more is not small endowment emotional appeal "light blue" and self sad. To the mature performance, that is naive. No state and profound, can show a shallow. Maturity is no need show also have no intention to performance. Mature performance, this is young and naive two people of the common failing.
A serious problem is also that the growth of the age, grow older, even after vicissitudes of life are doesn't ensure that a person's mature. Mature need a healthy free society environment requires personal think independently and often self evaluation. From this meaning can say, the Chinese people in the whole is not mature, has the thought for disabled; And 20 years young without exception is naive, even if he is treason, because he could not know the most basic this should be aware of the fact. For a long time power of oppression, intimidation and fraud made national collective servitude.
And it must be pointed out that mature don't reject innocence. The real maturity is rational, wisdom, pure and moral unity. Mature not vulgar and comment.maybe, but that will often becomes the standard of mature people discrimination, and takes it as a goal to imitate and pursuit. So we see the "mature" the Chinese often is vulgar. Compromise, obedience, drag out an ignoble existence, QuYanFuShi, only from the... This vulgar and actual mature is not to admire, this is just a small wisdom. YingYingGouGou little wisdom had had only of interest, and become what ambition.
Second, the mature symbol
The title is talk about the sign of mature, in fact exactly talk about maturity is the sign of the difficult, because without any mark mature, or mature mark too much. A person's behavior, or even through a tiny events often reflects a people's mentality and culture. And from the point of view of the different interpretation mature, mature also have different sign.
Although judgment mature and no sure, uniform standard, but daily life, people lack most easily the most immature and where there are still common. This makes mature also have their own obvious characteristics. Here is the symbol of mature talk about possible.
1, despise the opposite ***
To be able to "depreciate" the opposite ***, not the opposite *** seriously, this is the sign of mature, so put it on the first, because it is the first step towards life mature. Can not the opposite *** seriously, this to people, especially for teenagers, is difficult, only its difficult, so it didn't become a mature symbol.
Here say "despise the opposite ***", not a gender discrimination, it is refers to the man do not seriously when women also refers to a woman not to seriously when man. Shallow men may have superficial doubt: not the opposite *** seriously, this, this can do it, it is not too heartless? In fact, says here "despise the opposite ***", is mainly refers to be able to use a peaceful, health, calm attitude understanding and communication of the opposite ***. Despised, and not the good opinion of the opposite *** and refused to love, but refused to meet the presence of soft bones was not healthy psychology and performance.
Young teens innocence, to the opposite *** filled with wonder and mystery, and these are not mature performance. One day you will understand that man just so so, the woman also just so so. We can to the opposite *** friendly, and need not curious mysterious. This mystery wonder will cause people to emotional ups and downs, and rejoice, for the pain, for the happiness, for the pain. Maybe people in love can't keep the due awake, but, in daily life but also can often see people of various started in the presence of the opposite ***. Not the opposite *** seriously, not let you lost enthusiasm for life, but less disappointed, less damage, and can be natural and quiet.
2, deny himself
Deny himself, continue to deny himself, is of the maturity of the necessary conditions, but also an important sign of mature. Deny himself is profound thinking activity, from the truth and of self knowledge, and not feel and humbling ourselves. Deny himself is the result of thinking, not "ChuJingShengQing". As long as you always to reflect and face to yourself, you will always to deny himself.
Know yourself is not easy, deny himself as difficult, people the most easily thinks himself and stubborn has seen. I have more than once heard too much bastard such dialogue and resonance: "President have what we want to do the same, I do have, and I will do better." I'm not saying that when the President is not bastard, I even think can do on the official must have bastard stupid nature, or when the official will become bastard stupid up. But, although President can be a bastard, but not every asshole can when on the President. But the reality of almost all people that day is jealous.
In truth, no one has the qualification conceit. There is a saying of good, we most need to change the possibility is that we most keep going. However, people tend to think they are always right, the pride as a mature, the stubborn as individual character, the last is only "regret". In fact people's understanding of this shallow, plus all were in constant changes in, how can you not change? Things change in, the situation is changing, the truth also is changing, and it will be you are constantly changing their original understanding, deny himself had insist on things.
I have to have people show on major issues make fewer mistakes or even the hang of make no mistake, I said, when you meet is difficult to choice, you according to the contrary ideas with you to do, the result is right. That is to say, when you think something to do, don't do it, when you think you cannot be done, then you shall do; If you think is right, you will awake, because you think it is correct, so it is wrong, if you think is wrong, also, you have to understand that it is right. People listen to start not letter, then in practice it have a proven track record. Do not believe might as well try.
3, learn to forgive
Tolerance is not only symbolic mature, tolerance is also a kind of state. Childish heart never tolerance, they extreme, rage, blind action, "JiERuQiu", but he has repeatedly made not "tolerance" wrong, they pursue perfect, but does not understand own existence of regret. In addition, the tyrant and power also never tolerance, they such narrow mind, like life, killing bite blood innumerable, finally, stupid will only lead to their ruin.
"Like a warm spring to comrade, like the autumn wind sweeps the fallen leaves to the enemy as ruthless." This is a stark lies. The facts proved the to the "enemy" of the cruel, comrade to for his friend will also so. Struggle for the benefit of people philosophy and loss of reason and righteousness, they see the life such as CaoGai, they do not know the truth for what, do not have completely to the life the respect and love. The enemy had to fight, and then to kill each other, and harm set. Cultural revolution is the best example of validation.
Blind pursue abstract justice, the concept of "enemies" in people heart strengthened. In fact, no one is born to the enemy. Remember which one writer said, a falling leaf not through the tree allowed, and is not the drop down. Also, a man so fell to be criminals, not only is a fault, the whole society is responsible. Moreover, in most cases, so the enemy, criminals but is power imposed human qualitative, and not according to the standard of justice.
